# 163: Building A Life That Matters with Brian Dubow (Hit of Happiness)

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Published: 2026-02-27T11:00:00+00:00
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What if you wake up one day and despite living up to society's definition of success, you feel empty inside? That's what happened to today's guest Brian Dubow, host of Hit of Happiness and happiness coach. By all accounts, Brian reached a level of success that most people envy. But he slowly realized that his drive to work hard was a defense mechanism protecting himself from asking the harder questions - like why he wasn't happy. And why he didn't actually care about a job that made his peers envy him. So, his quarter-life crisis forced him to embark on a journey to rediscover his own happiness, quit his job, and launch Hit of Happiness - a podcast and coaching program that helps others build a life that matters. If you've been silently wondering why your life hasn't led to the happiness you imagined, this episode is your first step towards building a life that matters. To you. Here's what Brian and I discuss: How to undo your subconscious programming that's keeping you stuck in someone else's life Why thinking of happiness as an inside job is the fastest way to become happier in your day-to-day life The 3 phases of happiness (and why most men are stuck in the first two levels) And more, including… The insidious way people will push you to do what they want you to do (and how defining success for yourself prevents you from living another person's dreams) (6:01) How to tell if your desire to be busy is a sneaky way to avoid your emotions (this is the case for most men) (6:38) What to do when you reach society's definition of happiness but not your own (7:26) How inspiration from others means you have a version of them living inside you (9:11) The "happiness is an inside job" secret that can triple your happiness without anything changing in your external environment (10…

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