# Sibling Sexual Abuse and the Power of Sharing Truth with Darlene Lekowski Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506/sibling-sexual-abuse-and-the-power-of-sharing-truth-with-darlene-lekowski Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506/sibling-sexual-abuse-and-the-power-of-sharing-truth-with-darlene-lekowski.md Podcast: [The Art Of Imperfect Adulting](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506) Published: 2026-03-21T13:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.imperfectadulting.com Audio file: https://op3.dev/e/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/episodes.captivate.fm/episode/e3400b52-08c0-4c34-8191-bc80e92c2a82.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506/episodes/sibling-sexual-abuse-and-the-power-of-sharing-truth-with-darlene-lekowski Duration seconds: 2862 ## Resource In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Darlene Lekowski about the lifelong impact of sibling sexual trauma and the journey of letting go of secrets that shaped her adult life. Darlene lives in the Charlotte, NC suburbs with her husband, Tom, their dog Pepper, and is the proud mother of three adult children. Listeners will learn how the process of opening up allowed Darlene to move from perfectionism and hypervigilance to forgiveness, healing, and connection. About Darlene Lekowski: Darlene Lekowski is a speaker, author, and advocate who writes and speaks about what happens when high-functioning adults realize that control and perfection aren’t peace—they’re survival strategies. After decades of striving to “hold it all together,” Darlene was forced to confront the emotional cost of living this way and learn, imperfectly, how to let go. Her debut memoir, Shattering Silence: A Story of Survival, Justice & the Power of Telling the Truth (April 2026), chronicles her journey of reclaiming her voice, redefining success, and choosing freedom over fear. Main Topics Covered: The effects of sibling sexual abuse and trauma on childhood and adult relationships Understanding and coping with PTSD masked by perfectionism, control, and success The power dynamics and family pressure that keep childhood trauma secret for decades How releasing control and secrets changed Darlene’s relationships with her children and spouse Navigating hypervigilance, competitiveness, and the illusion of “good adulting” as survival strategies The role of therapy, supportive friendships, and alternative healing methods like EFT tapping in trauma recovery The courage to confront abusers, share your story publicly, and reclaim agency—even through the stress and grief of li… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506/episodes/sibling-sexual-abuse-and-the-power-of-sharing-truth-with-darlene-lekowski/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-art-of-imperfect-adulting-7153506/sibling-sexual-abuse-and-the-power-of-sharing-truth-with-darlene-lekowski.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.