# The Love You're Chasing Might Not Be Love

Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/the-love-you-re-chasing-might-not-be-love
Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/the-love-you-re-chasing-might-not-be-love.md
Podcast: [The Angry Therapist Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385)
Published: 2026-07-01T07:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC7721378494.mp3
Audio file: https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/mgln.ai/e/441/traffic.megaphone.fm/BVLLC7721378494.mp3
Processing state: not_requested
JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/episodes/the-love-you-re-chasing-might-not-be-love
Duration seconds: 1282

## Resource

What if the love you've been chasing was never meant to stay the same? In this episode, John Kim shares excerpts from his new book, Love Hard on Purpose, and explores how love evolves as we heal. He reflects on the difference between unhealthy, dopamine-driven relationships and the kind of love that challenges us to grow, repair, and become better versions of ourselves. In this episode: • Why love isn't just meant to make us happy, but to help us heal • The difference between healthy love and unhealthy love • How we confuse intensity with intimacy • Why conflict and repair are essential to lasting relationships • The journey from "drug love" to "medicine love" • A personal reflection on the "B-sides" of life that quietly shape who we become If this episode resonated with you, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share it with someone who could use the reminder that love can be a path to healing. 🎙️ More about John: 📘 My latest book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. https://acesse.one/bioe5v7 John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co 📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠ If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE Order John’s book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

## Actions

- request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/episodes/the-love-you-re-chasing-might-not-be-love/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode.
- read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-angry-therapist-podcast-743385/the-love-you-re-chasing-might-not-be-love.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource.

A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed.

## Transcript

Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.