# People Pleasing Is Wearing You Out — Here's Why

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Podcast: [The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-advisor-with-stacey-chillemi-5720104)
Published: 2026-06-29T10:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

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