# Harry Reis, University of Rochester - How to Feel Loved

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Podcast: [The Academic Minute](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-academic-minute-1102038)
Published: 2026-07-06T04:01:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.academicminute.org/p/harry-reis-university-of-rochester
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Duration seconds: 150

## Resource

Do you feel loved? Harry Reis , professor of psychology at the University of Rochester , examines why most do not. Faculty Bio: Harry Reis, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, is one of the world’s leading experts on relationships and connection and has studied the complexities of well-being and love in depth. His research examines the factors that influence the quantity and closeness or social interaction, and the consequences of different patterns of socializing for health and psychological well-being. Truly feeling loved, he has found, differs widely from the actions that we usually associate with loving, being loved, and falling in love. Transcript: Most people want to BE loved, but above all, they want to FEEL loved. Ask yourself: Do you feel loved as often as you would like? Do you feel loved by the people you want to feel loved by? A book I co-authored with Sonja Lyubomirsky, How to Feel Loved, is meant to help people find, keep, and grow the love they feel. In our research, roughly two-¬thirds of a random sample of Americans wanted to feel more loved or loved more often. Studies show that not feeling loved is the root of the so-called loneliness epidemic; it hampers performance at school and work; it harms our health and well-being, and it even predicts dying sooner. Feeling loved is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Ironically, some of the most common ways we try to feel more loved can make things worse, not better: For example, we try to make ourselves appear more attractive and successful; We spotlight our positive qualities while hiding our weaknesses and vulnerabilities. But feeling loved is not about changing yourself or making another person love you. It’s about changing the conversation. The pathway to feeling more loved begins with…

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