# Dr. Becky On Why Becoming A Mom Isn't Actually About Your Baby Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141/dr-becky-on-why-becoming-a-mom-isn-t-actually-about-your-baby Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141/dr-becky-on-why-becoming-a-mom-isn-t-actually-about-your-baby.md Podcast: [Tell Me I'm a Good Mom with Lo Bosworth Natale](https://stenobird.com/podcast/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141) Published: 2026-05-06T07:01:00+00:00 Episode link: https://mgln.ai/e/369/pscrb.fm/rss/p/arttrk.com/p/DM22A/claritaspod.com/measure/prfx.byspotify.com/e/rss.art19.com/episodes/6e563090-fae1-48e3-93e3-3f869c87ebd7.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0 Audio file: https://mgln.ai/e/369/pscrb.fm/rss/p/arttrk.com/p/DM22A/claritaspod.com/measure/prfx.byspotify.com/e/rss.art19.com/episodes/6e563090-fae1-48e3-93e3-3f869c87ebd7.mp3?rss_browser=BAhJIg90cmFuc2NyaWJyBjoGRVQ%3D--952c5701c84ad333c69d5faa668f8177091704f0 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141/episodes/dr-becky-on-why-becoming-a-mom-isn-t-actually-about-your-baby Duration seconds: 2826 ## Resource I cried in the back of an Uber after my first dinner out post-baby. I'd had one and a half martinis (a mistake), I'd left my husband at home with the baby (he was thrilled for me to go), and I felt so guilty I genuinely couldn't stop sobbing. Mom guilt, right? That's what we'd call it. Except according to Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist, founder of Good Inside, and probably the most followed parenting expert on the planet, what I was feeling probably wasn't actually guilt at all. It was something else, and almost nobody talks about it. This week she sat down with me to talk about the weeks of motherhood nobody warns you about. Why your thoughts the first weeks postpartum are mostly about you, not your baby (and why that's normal, not a character flaw). Why intrusive thoughts about your baby are a sign of how much you love them, not a sign you're dangerous. Why the doer identity you bring into motherhood is going to crash, and what to do when it does. Plus the reframe she dropped at the end of our conversation that I haven't stopped thinking about since: the sentence that starts with "I'm a good mom who..." and how it changes everything. Follow Tell Me I'm a Good Mom on Apple, subscribe on Spotify, and tell me your version in the YouTube comments. The longer read drops Sunday at lobosworth.substack.com. Sponsors: Nuna: Check out  nunababy.com  or popping into your local Nordstrom to test it out Grow: Visit GrowTherapy.com/ GOODMOM today to get started β€” πŸ“Ί Subscribe:  https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth πŸ“– Newsletter:  https://substack.com/@lobosworth πŸ›οΈ Love Wellness:  https://lovewellness.com πŸ“± Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎡 TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth β€” Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141/episodes/dr-becky-on-why-becoming-a-mom-isn-t-actually-about-your-baby/transcription-requests` β€” Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/tell-me-i-m-a-good-mom-with-lo-bosworth-natale-7758141/dr-becky-on-why-becoming-a-mom-isn-t-actually-about-your-baby.md` β€” Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.