# Grieving the Version of Yourself That Could “Push Through” with Dr. Kathleen Nadeau

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Podcast: [Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/taking-control-the-adhd-podcast-386692)
Published: 2026-04-02T10:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/55eef270
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What happens to your sense of self when the coping strategies you've relied on your whole life start to give out? For a lot of us, "pushing through" wasn't just a strategy, it was the story we told ourselves about why we kept making it. And when that story stops being true, what we're left with can look a lot like grief. Dr. Kathleen Nadeau has spent decades sitting with people in that moment. She's interviewed 150 older adults with ADHD about what the losses actually feel like — the unmet retirement fantasies, the disorientation of late diagnosis, the particular sting of watching younger generations get the support that was never offered to them. She knows what keeps people stuck. And she has a lot to say about what's possible on the other side. This is the second episode of our ADHD and Aging series, and it goes somewhere we didn't fully anticipate. Kathleen pushes back on the idea that aging with ADHD is mostly a story of subtraction. She makes the case, grounded in decades of research, that our brains are more malleable than we've been told, and that the real question is never "how do I push through this" but "where do I need to plant myself." Links & Notes Support the Show on Patreon Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:08) - ADHD and Aging ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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