# Should Black Women Stop Dating Men Who Grew Up on Survival Until They Go to Therapy?

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Podcast: [Softly Unfiltered](https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865)
Published: 2026-03-18T14:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2635169
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Duration seconds: 2440

## Resource

What happens when one person has done the work and the other hasn't even started? This week we're getting into a conversation that so many women are having behind closed doors but not enough people are saying out loud. In this episode we talk about: • Why survival mode shows up in dating and kills emotional intimacy • The difference between being a supportive partner and mothering a grown man • How struggle love culture removes accountability from men and puts pressure on women • What it actually feels like to be hypervigilant in a relationship and how it affects your health • Why your body always remembers even when your heart wants to forgive • Whether requiring therapy is a boundary or unrealistic • How some men weaponize therapy language instead of actually doing the work • The role mothers play in holding or not holding their sons accountable • Why more women are choosing to be single and why that's perfectly okay This episode is for every woman who has ever questioned whether she was asking for too much. Spoiler: you're not. ✨ Mantra Moment: Love should not require you to heal someone else. Black women should be allowed to choose someone who is actively doing the same work that they are and not be guilted for it. Growing up in survival mode can absolutely explain behavior, but what are you doing about it? 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

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