# Confidence, Self Obsession, and Breaking Out of Survival Mode Feat. Erica Ware The Confidence Coach

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Podcast: [Softly Unfiltered](https://stenobird.com/podcast/suburban-black-girl-podcast-7091865)
Published: 2026-05-13T14:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://rss.com/podcasts/suburbanblackgirlpodcast/2817154
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In this episode we sat down with Erica, The Confidence Coach (@theconfidencecoach), for a conversation that had us taking notes from start to finish. Erica is a mindset coach dedicated to helping women build self worth, set boundaries, and show up as their most confident selves. And she did not hold back. We got into: • The difference between being loved and being needed and why real love feels like exhale energy • Why calling yourself low maintenance is actually inviting low effort love • How to stop giving up your autonomy just because you like somebody • Why Black women feel so guilty for choosing themselves and where that guilt actually comes from • What survival mode actually looks like and how to recognize it in your own life • What healthy self obsession really means and why it doesn't have to be healthy • How to build and protect your routine in a relationship so you don't lose yourself • The difference between guilt and discomfort when you say no • Why confidence is curated daily and not something you wake up with Mantra Moment: Do it uncertain. Do it scared. Do it imperfect. There is no such thing as the right time. The right time is right now. — Erica (@theconfidencecoach) If this episode resonated drop a comment and let us know which part of Erica's message hit home for you. 📩 Email us: SuburbanBlackGirlPod@gmail.com 📱 Follow us on all platforms: @SuburbanBlackGirlPod ⭐ Leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts & Spotify!

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