# 190. Why Being Hard On Yourself Isn't Working Anymore

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Podcast: [Strong Is a Mindset](https://stenobird.com/podcast/strong-is-a-mindset-5572120)
Published: 2026-02-11T06:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://carriehollandmd.com/being-hard-on-yourself/
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## Resource

Being hard on yourself probably worked at some point in your life. It helped you perform, push through, and get results. But if that same pressure now feels exhausting, heavy, or like it's quietly working against you, this episode is for you. In this episode, I unpack the quieter, socially rewarded version of being hard on yourself; the kind that looks like discipline, high standards, and responsibility. You'll hear why this approach works for a long time, why it starts to feel so heavy as life gets fuller, and why questioning it can feel unsettling. Tune in this week to hear why being hard on yourself isn't working anymore, and the fear so many high-achieving women experience around letting go of the pressure they're used to. You'll also learn what self-compassion actually looks like in real life, why it's not the opposite of discipline, and how it helps you stay engaged instead of burning out or shutting down. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://carriehollandmd.com/190 Follow me on Facebook and Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/carriehollandmd https://www.instagram.com/carriehollandmd/

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