# #059 Don’t Wait Until You’re Healed to Be in a Relationship

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Podcast: [Sit Around the Fire](https://stenobird.com/podcast/sit-around-the-fire-7092992)
Published: 2026-07-07T12:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

So many people believe they need to be fully healed before they can be in a relationship. But what if that belief is actually keeping us isolated? In this episode of Sit Around the Fire , Ashlea Dillard explores why relationships are not just something we enter after healing — they are often one of the places healing actually happens. Drawing from psychodynamic theory, Jungian psychology, attachment theory, object relations theory, and humanistic psychology, Ashlea breaks down how relationships reveal unconscious patterns, activate old wounds, mirror hidden parts of ourselves, and give the nervous system new experiences of safety, repair, and connection. This episode is not about staying in unsafe or harmful relationships. It is about understanding the difference between being activated and being harmed, and recognizing that safe-enough relationships can become powerful spaces for growth, awareness, and healing. You do not have to be perfect to be loved. You are allowed to be loved while you are still learning.

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