# The War Inside You: Why You Still Miss Them After Covert Narcissistic Abuse (IFS Explained)

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Podcast: [Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads](https://stenobird.com/podcast/sh-t-that-goes-on-in-our-heads-6035444)
Published: 2026-04-09T12:54:00+00:00
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## Resource

In this special episode swap, we’re featuring Renee Swanson’s powerful episode from The Covert Narcissism Podcast, breaking down why you can still miss someone who hurt you and what that means for your healing. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), this episode explores trauma, emotional conflict, and narcissistic abuse recovery to help you reconnect with yourself and build lasting self-trust.

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