# EP489 - Frustration and Disappointment: How to Revive a Sexless Marriage with Elana Auerbach

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Podcast: [Sexology](https://stenobird.com/podcast/sexology-452357)
Published: 2026-05-05T07:00:15+00:00
Episode link: http://sexologypodcast.com
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Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy. It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners. Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry. It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life. In this episode, you will hear: Defining Sexless Relationships The Myth of Spontaneous Desire Understanding Responsive Desire Navigating Discrepancies in Libido The Impact of Unspoken Rejection Introducing the Sure Thing Practice Exploring Sensuality Without Pressure Honoring Boundaries and Communicating Nos Overcoming the Burden of Sexual Shame Taking Accountability for Intimacy Goals Elana's guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire! https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self  For…

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