# Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back

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Podcast: [Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/sex-advice-for-seniors-podcast-5576148)
Published: 2026-06-11T15:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-how
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## Resource

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story. In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors , I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond. We dive into Monica’s surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges affect sexual intimacy in older adults, and whether it’s truly possible to change relationship patterns after decades together. If you’re navigating love, sex, and connection in later life, this episode offers practical, realistic tools you can start using today. What You’ll Learn: · The “3% rule” for relationship success and why small time investments create big intimacy gains · How to maintain emotional and sexual connection in your 50s, 60s, and 70s · Why resentment in long-term relationships is often unspoken desire · The daily habit that keeps couples from drifting apart over time · How illness, aging, and health issues impact intimacy... and how to adapt · Why couples delay important conversations about sex, needs, and expectations · Whether it’s possible to change deeply ingrained relationship patterns later in life Key Topics & Keywords: Sex advice for seniors, intimacy after 60, relationships in later life, sexual health for older adults, maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships, marriage advice for older couples, communication in relationships, emotional connection in aging, sex and aging, overcoming resentment in relati…

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