# Why We Love the Way We Do (Attachment Styles Explained)

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Podcast: [Scheananigans with Scheana Shay](https://stenobird.com/podcast/scheananigans-with-scheana-shay-331077)
Published: 2026-01-30T08:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Attachment styles are everywhere — but what do they actually mean, and how much do they shape the way we love? This week, Scheana is joined by leading attachment theory expert Thais Gibson (founder of The Personal Development School) to break down the four attachment styles, why our adult relationships mirror our earliest bonds, and how insecurity shows up in communication, conflict, and connection. Scheana opens up about learning she’s securely attached, while her husband Brock discovered he has a fearful avoidant attachment style — sparking an honest conversation about what it really takes to make different styles work together.   Thais explains why attachment styles aren’t fixed, how patterns like people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and emotional withdrawal form, and what actually helps move toward secure attachment. This episode isn’t about labels or blame — it’s about awareness, responsibility, and doing the work. If you’ve ever wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation might explain everything. Visit  university.personaldevelopmentschool.com  and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School’s 90-Day Attachment Healing membership. Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans  Guest: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool     Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book and audiobook MY GOOD SIDE at  www.mygoodsidebook.com ! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

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