# Episode 81 Why Staying Confused Is Costing You Confidence

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Podcast: [Running to Myself](https://stenobird.com/podcast/running-to-myself-7040526)
Published: 2026-03-16T10:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.trishastanton.com/podcasts/running-to-myself/episodes/2149163253
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Episode Summary “I’m confused.” “I don’t know what to do.” “I just need more clarity.” Sometimes that’s true. But often, especially in relationships, confusion isn’t confusion at all. It’s avoidance. In this episode, we unpack how staying “confused” can become a subtle form of self-sabotage. Not because you lack clarity, but because taking action would require discomfort. You’ll learn how confusion protects you from short-term discomfort while quietly eroding long-term confidence. And more importantly, how stepping out of confusion and into courageous action is the very thing that builds self-trust. If you’ve ever felt stuck in indecision, avoided a hard conversation, or delayed a boundary you know you need to set...this episode is for you. What We Explore The difference between true confusion and avoidance • Why “I don’t know” often means “I don’t want to face what comes next” • How confusion feels safe but slowly weakens confidence • The hidden link between clarity, courage, and self-trust • Why confidence comes after action — not before Key Teaching Most people believe they need more confidence before they act. But confidence is built by watching yourself act while uncomfortable. Clarity → Courageous Action → Evidence → Confidence When you avoid: Clarity → Avoidance → Self-Doubt → Less Confidence You don’t build self-trust by waiting for certainty. You build it by keeping your word to yourself — even when it’s uncomfortable. Reflection Questions If I had to decide today, what would I choose? • What uncomfortable action am I avoiding? • Am I truly confused — or am I afraid? • What would the version of me who trusts herself do next? A Reminder Confusion feels neutral. It’s not. Staying confused may protect you from immediate discomfort, but it costs you confidence ove…

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