# EP 55: The Devil We Know: Why Sobriety Feels Uncomfortable Before It Feels Free

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Podcast: [Rewired Sober](https://stenobird.com/podcast/rewired-sober-7110186)
Published: 2026-01-06T08:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://rewiredsober.captivate.fm
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The Devil We Know: Why Sobriety Feels Uncomfortable Before It Feels Free In this episode of Rewired Sober , Kate explores one of the most misunderstood parts of sobriety: liminal spaces — the in-between seasons where the old way no longer fits, but the new way hasn’t fully formed yet. These are the moments when you know you made the right choice… but your nervous system still craves the relief of certainty. Using both neuroscience and lived experience, Kate unpacks why the brain prefers the “devil we know” — familiar patterns, predictable outcomes, even familiar pain — over the uncertainty that comes with real change. This episode also includes a live teaching pulled directly from Kate’s Rewired Sober group , where she speaks candidly about: wanting to want sobriety why early sobriety can feel strangely effortful and why feeling unsettled doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong If you’ve ever thought “Why does this still feel weird?” — this conversation will land. This episode is for you if: You’re outgrowing alcohol but don’t feel fully at home without it yet You find yourself wanting answers instead of wanting to sit in the unknown You feel frustrated that sobriety still requires intention You’re in a transition season and questioning whether you’re “behind” In this episode, Kate explores: What liminal spaces are and why they’re unavoidable in sobriety Why the nervous system values predictability over freedom How familiar habits create a false sense of safety The urge to rush certainty — and why it’s a stress response Why repetition, regulation, and time are what actually rewire the brain How staying in the middle is not weakness, but integration Key takeaway: Transformation doesn’t happen in the decision. It happens in the middle. You don’t rush liminal spaces. You…

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