# 369. Avoidant Attachment: How to Love an Avoidant Partner Without Chasing or Losing Yourself Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/369-avoidant-attachment-how-to-love-an-avoidant-partner-without-chasing-or-losing-yourself Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/369-avoidant-attachment-how-to-love-an-avoidant-partner-without-chasing-or-losing-yourself.md Podcast: [Relationships Made Easy](https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411) Published: 2026-02-10T00:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-attachment-in-relationships Audio file: https://audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/f0767954-2b69-4687-a74e-ce6e5482a97c/stream.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/369-avoidant-attachment-how-to-love-an-avoidant-partner-without-chasing-or-losing-yourself Duration seconds: 2453 ## Resource If you love someone who shuts down, pulls away, or goes emotionally quiet when things get close, this episode is for you. You might feel confused, lonely, or like you’re constantly guessing where you stand. Today, you’ll learn why people are avoidantly attached, why pursuing closeness backfires, and how to love an avoidant partner without chasing, over-explaining, or disappearing yourself. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-attachment-in-relationships   Get the Scripts! Loving an Avoidant Partner: 10 Things to Say and Not Say When They Pull Away. This guide gives you clear scripts, common traps, and repair language so you can show up grounded, direct, and self-respecting: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-partner-scripts   Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack .   You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________   Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Easy and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries   👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook   👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-a… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/369-avoidant-attachment-how-to-love-an-avoidant-partner-without-chasing-or-losing-yourself/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/369-avoidant-attachment-how-to-love-an-avoidant-partner-without-chasing-or-losing-yourself.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.