# 366. Divorcing a Narcissistic Ex: Why It Escalates and How to Protect Yourself and Your Kids Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/366-divorcing-a-narcissistic-ex-why-it-escalates-and-how-to-protect-yourself-and-your-kids Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/366-divorcing-a-narcissistic-ex-why-it-escalates-and-how-to-protect-yourself-and-your-kids.md Podcast: [Relationships Made Easy](https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411) Published: 2026-01-20T00:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://abbymedcalf.com/divorcing-or-breaking-up-with-a-narcissist Audio file: https://audio4.redcircle.com/episodes/0c76b4c6-e14a-4d11-b349-331f50477328/stream.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/366-divorcing-a-narcissistic-ex-why-it-escalates-and-how-to-protect-yourself-and-your-kids Duration seconds: 4311 ## Resource Most people expect a divorce or breakup to be painful. What they don’t expect is for it to feel strategic, relentless, and never-ending. If you’re separating from someone with narcissistic traits, you’re likely treating it as a transition, but they’re treating it like a war. Today you’ll learn why divorcing or breaking up with a narcissistic partner follows a completely different set of psychological rules, the mindset shifts that help you stop taking the bait, and what you need to do differently, especially if you have kids and want to protect them long-term. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/divorcing-or-breaking-up-with-a-narcissist   Are You Divorcing or Breaking Up with Someone Who Has Narcissistic Traits? Get the Reality-Check Quiz:   https://abbymedcalf.com/narcissistic-breakup-quiz   Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack .   You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________   Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Easy and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries   👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook   👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book  ____________________________ Looking for past episodes of the Relationships M… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/relationships-made-easy-1024411/episodes/366-divorcing-a-narcissistic-ex-why-it-escalates-and-how-to-protect-yourself-and-your-kids/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/relationships-made-easy-1024411/366-divorcing-a-narcissistic-ex-why-it-escalates-and-how-to-protect-yourself-and-your-kids.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.