# #123: Why You Can't Make Decisions (And What It's Really Saying About You)

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Podcast: [Ready For Love with Hilary Silver](https://stenobird.com/podcast/ready-for-love-with-hilary-silver-6894068)
Published: 2026-07-03T07:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Indecision can feel like careful thinking until you realize you've handed your life’s decisions to everyone but you. You can make the pros and cons list, ask every trusted person what they think, and wait for the perfect sign. You can call it being responsible. You can tell yourself you need more time. Yet the longer you stay in limbo, the more the decision starts making itself without you. Hilary calls this passenger living. It is what happens when you let time, fate, other people, or circumstance take the wheel. Sometimes it looks passive. Sometimes it looks like sabotage. This conversation is an invitation to look at indecision with more honesty and less shame. What decision are you pretending not to make? Where are you waiting for certainty that may never come? How often do you ask everyone else because you do not fully trust yourself? Hilary breaks down why indecision is rarely about the surface-level choice in front of you. At its core, it often comes down to self-trust. When you believe you can handle the outcome, even an imperfect one, decisions stop feeling like a threat to your safety. You do not need a guarantee. You need to know that no matter what happens, you will figure it out. Episode Highlights Why doing nothing is still a decision How indecision becomes passenger living The hidden link between avoidance and sabotage Why self-trust is the real root of decisiveness How past choices can distort your confidence now Why your instincts were not broken, even when you ignored them The three traits of people who make clear decisions A new mantra for choosing without needing perfect certainty Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Understanding Indecision and Overthinking 03:14 The Cost of Avoiding Decisions 06:00 The Roots of Indecision 08:45 Building Self-Trust for Decisiv…

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