# #62: The Hidden Reason Even Good Relationships Drift Apart

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Podcast: [Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40](https://stenobird.com/podcast/practicing-love-have-the-best-love-and-sex-of-your-life-after-40-7053593)
Published: 2026-07-23T09:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Have you ever looked at someone you love and wondered, What happened to us? Most people assume relationships drift apart because the spark fades, communication breaks down, or life simply gets in the way. But what if the real reason is much simpler and more hopeful? In this conversation, bestselling author and executive coach Jamie Smart shares a perspective that has transformed the lives of thousands of people he has coached. One of my favorite moments is when Jamie talks about how he'd spent years organizing his relationships around avoiding heartbreak instead of creating true love, and what is possible since making that shift. In this episode, we explore: The underlying causes of relationships drifting and spark fading How your "view" changes how your partner appears to you The downward spiral of disconnection from trying to be "right" How insight transforms relationships faster than trying harder The key to make the shift from self-protection to creating true love Whether you're dating, married, healing from heartbreak, or simply wanting deeper connection, this conversation offers a fresh way of understanding what keeps love alive, and what helps us truly see each other again. And if you want a deep dive into understanding who you truly are, and what's possible in love and life once you know this, this is an episode for you. Enjoyed this conversation? Here are a few more resources: Jamie's Resources: Learn more: JamieSmart.com Listen to Jamie's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/get-clarity-with-jamie-smart/id1173476690 Explore Jamie's books, including Clarity and Results: Think Less, Achieve More : https://www.jamiesmart.com/jamie-books/ Shana's Resources: Discover what's keeping you from having the love and connection you want. Take the quiz: https://…

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