# Closed to Love - He is still controlling your life

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Podcast: [Pleasurelit with Patricia](https://stenobird.com/podcast/pleasurelit-with-patricia-6449405)
Published: 2026-04-26T19:01:00+00:00
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## Resource

Have you been telling yourself you have high standards, but underneath that is the fear of getting hurt again? In this episode, I share my own journey from a DV marriage through hyper-independence, high-functioning and emotional armour, to realising the men who hurt me were still controlling my life. I talk about the difference between protective walls and boundaries, what somatic self-trust actually changes, and how women can open up to love and pleasure after trauma without abandoning themselves. Feel radiant, regulated and deliciously turned on by yourself and life itself at ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Welcome pleasure being, I’m Patricia I grew up as the “good girl”, achieving, performing and unable to receive. After surviving a D V marriage, I spent years reconnecting with my body, exploring over 400 pleasure tools, countless embodied practices, and completing more than 20 certifications. I am an award-winning somatic pleasure educator and explorer. I guide you to awaken, deepen and widen your capacity for pleasure, so you can feel radiant, regulated and deliciously turned on by yourself and life itself. Pleasurelit is built on my trauma-informed Somatic Pleasure approach, drawing on tantra, breathwork, yoga and k*nk. It is pleasure lit from within, felt deeply in the body and lived as a way of being. Choose your path: Join ⁠⁠⁠Pleasurelit & Circle⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠The Pleasurelit Woman Program⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠The Pleasure Explorer⁠⁠⁠ Access all my ⁠⁠⁠Online Courses⁠⁠⁠ Get my bestselling ⁠⁠⁠ book The Pleasurelit Way⁠⁠⁠ Apply for ⁠⁠⁠1:1 Sessions⁠⁠⁠ Apply for ⁠⁠⁠1:1 Mentorship⁠⁠⁠ Access all ⁠⁠⁠my favourites⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book Patricia for your speaking/workshop⁠⁠⁠ Access my ⁠⁠⁠FREE workshop⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Connect with me⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Support…

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