# S3E39 - Child "Stealing": Why It Happens and How to Handle It Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it.md Podcast: [Play Therapy Parenting: Real Parenting Questions Answered by a Child Therapist](https://stenobird.com/podcast/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974) Published: 2026-04-22T12:56:00+00:00 Episode link: https://thekidcounselor.libsyn.com/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it Audio file: https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/thekidcounselor/PlayTherapyParenting_3_39_ChildStealing.mp3?dest-id=689050 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974/episodes/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it Duration seconds: 910 ## Resource In this episode, I answer a question from a mom about her child taking things that don't belong to her. I explain that while this behavior can feel alarming, it is actually very common in childhood and is usually tied to development, impulse, and a child's desire to meet a need in the moment. Children often understand that taking things is wrong, but they don't yet have the ability to reason through that impulse or regulate it effectively. What looks like stealing is often a combination of desire, limited self-control, and not yet having the words to express what they want or feel. I also walk through how to respond in a way that teaches responsibility without creating shame. Validating the child's desire, setting clear limits, and offering choices that actually connect to what the child wants are key. When behavior continues, consequences can be appropriate, but they should be temporary and focused on helping the child develop internal responsibility—not just compliance. The goal is for the child to eventually choose not to take things because they understand and regulate themselves, not because they are being monitored. Ask Me Questions: Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com My Book: Device Detox: A Parent's Guide To Reducing Usage, Preventing Tantrums, And Raising Happier Kids - https://a.co/d/bThnKH9 Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/ My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/ My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/ Common References: Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Rou… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974/episodes/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/play-therapy-parenting-real-parenting-questions-answered-by-a-child-therapist-845974/s3e39-child-stealing-why-it-happens-and-how-to-handle-it.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.