# 2981: The Destructive Ways We Self-Parent as Adults by Dr. Lisa Firestone of Psych Alive on Self Awareness and Growth

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Podcast: [Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting](https://stenobird.com/podcast/optimal-relationships-daily-dating-marriage-and-parenting-1054569)
Published: 2026-04-23T07:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2981: Dr. Lisa Firestone explores how early relationships with caregivers shape an internal “fantasy bond” that quietly drives how we treat ourselves in adulthood. By uncovering the inner voice and inherited patterns we mistake as our own, we can begin to separate truth from conditioning. Understanding these hidden dynamics opens the door to healthier relationships and a more authentic sense of self. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.psychalive.org/the-destructive-ways-we-self-parent-as-adults/ Quotes to ponder: "We parent ourselves the way we were parented, both punishing ourselves and soothing ourselves as we were treated." "We start to form an “inner voice” that translates the attitudes we picked up from our parents into our own self-concept." "We keep them alive inside us by living out a prescription they wrote for us, almost always without any awareness of what we are doing." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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