# How New Managers Can Set Boundaries With Former Peers

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Podcast: [New Manager Conversations with Fexingo: First 90 Days, Managing Former Peers, and Leadership Basics](https://stenobird.com/podcast/new-manager-conversations-with-fexingo-first-90-days-managing-former-peers-and-leadership-basics-7871636)
Published: 2026-06-17T04:58:50+00:00
Episode link: https://audio.fexingo.com/business/new-manager-conversations/episode-0057.mp3
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## Resource

Episode 57 tackles one of the trickiest transitions for a new manager: shifting from peer to boss without losing the friendship or the respect of your former teammates. Lucas and Luna break down a real scenario involving Allison, a new engineering manager at a midsize SaaS company who found herself still getting pulled into after-work gossip and last-minute favor requests from her old squad. They walk through a specific three-step framework that helps new managers identify fuzzy boundaries, communicate them clearly without sounding like a jerk, and reinforce them consistently. The episode also touches on the emotional cost of role change—why it feels lonely at first and how to normalize that discomfort. No theory. Just a practical playbook for the manager who used to be 'one of the crew.' #NewManager #First90Days #ManagingFormerPeers #Boundaries #LeadershipBasics #CareerTransition #PeerToBoss #ManagerAdvice #WorkplaceRelationships #EngineeringManager #SaaS #TeamDynamics #SoftSkills #ManagementTips #Careers #FexingoBusiness #BusinessPodcast #Management Keep every episode free: buymeacoffee.com/fexingo

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