# The 5 Stages Every Mum Goes Through Before a Neurodivergent Diagnosis Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757/the-5-stages-every-mum-goes-through-before-a-neurodivergent-diagnosis Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757/the-5-stages-every-mum-goes-through-before-a-neurodivergent-diagnosis.md Podcast: [Neurodivergent Conversations | Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, PDA, Emotional Regulation, SEND parent, Meltdowns, Special Needs Parent](https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757) Published: 2026-09-10T04:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://mgln.ai/e/424/traffic.megaphone.fm/TSF9737057984.mp3 Audio file: https://mgln.ai/e/424/traffic.megaphone.fm/TSF9737057984.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757/episodes/the-5-stages-every-mum-goes-through-before-a-neurodivergent-diagnosis Duration seconds: 2121 ## Resource If you've ever had that quiet little feeling that something with your child is just a bit different, and you couldn't quite put it into words for anyone else, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. This week I sat down with Karla, who taught for 15 years in mainstream schools, moved into specialist neurodiversity settings, and then walked this whole journey herself as a mum. She works with parents in that tender, confusing space before there's any label or answer, and she breaks down the five stages so many of us move through without realising it even has a shape. We talk about that first nagging feeling. The way we explain it away (it's been a busy term, it's COVID, they're just tired). The dismissal stage, where you start voicing your worries and people look at you like you're imagining it, which Karla says is hands down the hardest part. And then discovery and understanding, where you finally stop and think, no, I've sat with this long enough, I'm going to trust what I'm seeing. I also share my own GP-told-me-it-was-my-American-accent story, because yes, that was a real thing someone said to me, and we get honest about how quietly we hand our power over to the professionals in the room and start losing our own voice. The thread running through all of it is simple: you are the expert on your child. Not the playground mums, not the age group, not the assessment table full of people. You. And once you get into the SEN and EHCP side of things, where the system is stretched so thin and the urgency just isn't there, that voice matters more than ever. If you're sitting in the messy middle right now, exhausted and second-guessing yourself, Karla has a message near the end that I literally soaked in while she said it. Come sit with us for a bit. You're not doing t… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757/episodes/the-5-stages-every-mum-goes-through-before-a-neurodivergent-diagnosis/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/neurodivergent-conversations-autism-adhd-audhd-pda-emotional-regulation-send-parent-meltdowns-special-needs-parent-7045757/the-5-stages-every-mum-goes-through-before-a-neurodivergent-diagnosis.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.