# How to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Take Your Big Swing

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Podcast: [Big Swings Only](https://stenobird.com/podcast/negotiate-anything-5844366)
Published: 2026-07-13T09:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Most people don't fail because they lack talent. They fail because they disqualify themselves before anyone else gets the chance. Patty Azzarello became HP's youngest-ever General Manager at 33, ran a billion-dollar business at 35, and reached Silicon Valley CEO by 38 — all while feeling like she didn't belong in the room. In her new book Why Is She Still Here?, she shares the real, unfiltered story of what it actually took to get there. In this episode, you'll discover: Why you should never disqualify yourself — Patty almost didn't apply for a billion-dollar GM role because she decided she wasn't ready. The men competing for the same job had less experience. She applied anyway. She got it. The "Little Patty" method for doing scary things — After 7 years of brutal childhood bullying, Patty built a powerful mental framework: if that little girl could walk back into school every day, you can do the scary adult thing. You owe it to her to swing. Why being a "business robot" stalls your career — Her boss told her she was too serious. Her mom cracked the code: your achievements get you in the door, but people have to want you in the room. How to turn your most embarrassing failure into your fastest learning — Patty once stood in front of a room full of engineers with zero knowledge of the product they were asking about. Two weeks later she was the most sought-after person to demo that exact product. The networking hack that works for introverts — Asking for help isn't weakness. It's how Patty — a self-described socially awkward introvert — built the support network that carried her career. Connect with Patty Azzarello: pattyazzarello.comlinkedin.com/in/pattyazzarelloBuy the book: Why Is She Still Here? Connect with Kwame: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Wor…

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