# When your adult daughter pulls away: Estrangment from the mothers side [Ep. 62]

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Podcast: [Mother Daughter Relationship Show](https://stenobird.com/podcast/mother-daughter-relationship-show-6993508)
Published: 2026-04-03T16:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://brittneymscott.com/podcast
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Duration seconds: 1165

## Resource

To the Mothers Whose Daughters Pulled Away: Understanding Ambiguous Loss In this compassionate yet accountable episode, I speak directly to mothers experiencing estrangement or distance from their adult daughters. I name what you're feeling, "ambiguous loss," and give you permission to grieve a relationship with someone who's still alive but no longer accessible to you. From the isolation of explaining why your daughter doesn't call, to the shame you carry at family gatherings, I validate the very real pain you're experiencing while also holding you responsible for examining your role. I break down the stories you might be telling yourself (she hates me, I failed, it's too late), explain why your daughter's distance is protection rather than punishment, and reveal why trying harder through more texts and unannounced visits only creates more distance. Most importantly, I show you what a different approach could look like and what work you can do whether your daughter participates or not. With this episode you'll be able to: Understand that ambiguous loss - grieving someone who's alive but inaccessible - is valid grief Recognize why comments like "what did you do?" compound your pain with shame See that your daughter's distance is self-preservation, not hatred or punishment Identify how trying harder (more texts, showing up unannounced) actually creates more distance Learn the difference between "I failed as a mother" and taking responsibility for specific behaviors Shift from "I miss you, why don't you call?" to respectful messages without pressure Know what work you can do independently: therapy, examining patterns, regulating your emotions Don't forget that intent and impact are different. You may not have intended to be critical, controlling, or dismissive, but exami…

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