# Unlearning Doesn't End It Just Gets Quieter: What Parents of LGBTQ Kids Need to Know

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Podcast: [More Human. More Kind. | Parenting LGBTQ Kids, Unlearning Fear, Becoming More Human](https://stenobird.com/podcast/more-human-more-kind-allyship-guidance-for-parents-of-lgbtq-teens-955717)
Published: 2026-08-25T09:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://more-human-more-kind.captivate.fm/episode/unlearning-doesnt-end-it-just-gets-quieter-what-parents-of-lgbtq-kids-need-to-know-about-the-work-that-comes-after-year-one
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Let's connect on Substack! Love is proven by what you're willing to unlearn. This is a check-in on that, for you and for me. Year-one unlearning is loud: fear, shame, and often a full religious deconstruction, and impossible to miss. What comes after is quieter and easy to overlook entirely: the automatic reach for a label, a tidy category, before you actually know anything true about someone. This episode is an honest look at where allyship goes once the big, obvious work is behind you. In this episode, you'll learn how to: Recognize the difference between year-one unlearning and the quieter unlearning that follows Notice the habit of labeling, and why it creates comfort for you and walls for someone else Run a quarterly self-audit to keep your unlearning honest and ongoing Normalize still catching yourself, years into this work, as the actual practice rather than failure Press play for the full Quarterly Unlearning Check-In, five questions to return to every three months. Hi, I’m Heather Hester , and I’m so glad you’re here! Feeling uncertain or overwhelmed? Download my free guide to take you from Panic to Plan. Stay informed - visit my website Join the Conversation on Substack Read my book, Parenting with Pride . Share More Human. More Kind. Invite me to speak at your workshop or event Watch on YouTube Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday! This is a place to feel messy while you're figuring it out. At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship , especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids . Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection. For p…

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