# Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, And Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092

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Podcast: [Modern Wisdom](https://stenobird.com/podcast/modern-wisdom-229239)
Published: 2026-05-02T05:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Mercedes Coffman is a writer, researcher, and cultural commentator. What’s happening with modern dating? People who are genuinely ready for a relationship feel frustrated, even punished by a shallow dating pool, yet others seem to find real love every day. So what’s actually broken, and what can be fixed? Expect to learn why avoidant culture is changing relationship expectations, if modern dating is punishing emotionally available people, why dating fatigue is kicking in, if someone is actually too busy for you or if they just say they are, the most common ways people unknowingly sabotage their own relationships, why you can just “fix her” and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom Timestamps: (0:00) How Avoidant Culture is Rewriting Relationships (1:55) Does Modern Dating Punish Emotionally Availability? (4:20) What Makes Emotionally Available People Vulnerable? (8:51) How to Spot Emotional Availability (12:00) What Does a Perfect Match Really Look Like? (13:33) What Blocks True Alignment? (16:39) Are We Too Obsessed With Love? (25:28) Why Discernment is the Ultimate Relationship Skill (34:23) How Do Rom-Coms Distort Our Love Lives (37:02) Romantasy: Escapism or Soft-Core Porn? (39:55) Does Desire Outpace Emotional Capacity? (42:53) Why We Self-Sabotage in Relationsh…

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