# Why Children of Divorce Grow Into Broken Adults - Erica Komisar - #1081

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Podcast: [Modern Wisdom](https://stenobird.com/podcast/modern-wisdom-229239)
Published: 2026-04-06T05:00:00+00:00
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Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst, parenting expert, and author. Why do we assume kids will be okay after divorce? As separation becomes more common, the long-term impact on a child’s development is often overlooked. So what actually happens, and can divorce ever be done without damage? Expect to learn what most adults misunderstand about how deeply divorce affects kids, why constant parental conflict causes damage to children so deeply and what it does to a child’s stress system and brain development, why 50-50 custody might be a terrible idea for children, what the long-term psychological consequences are from a neglectful parent and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at ⁠https://shopify.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at ⁠https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at ⁠https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at ⁠https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Timestamps: (0:00) Why is Erica’s Work So Controversial? (1:22) The Hidden Impacts of Divorce on Children (4:19) How Stress Reshapes a Child’s Brain (11:05) Is a Friendly Divorce Still Damaging? (14:22) Is 50/50 Custody Always the Right Choice? (22:13) Should Fathers Take a Step Back After Divorce? (26:18) Is There Ever a Right Time to Divorce? (30:52) How Divorce Shapes a Child’s Future (33:04) Boys vs Girls: Who Does Divorce Hit Harder? (34:57) Is Separation During Pregnancy Dangerous? (42:02) Why Children Blame Themselves for Divorce (50:47) Divorce Feels Like Grief For Children (52:25)…

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