# The Painful Psychological Cost Of Becoming A Dad - Darby Saxbe - #1129

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Podcast: [Modern Wisdom](https://stenobird.com/podcast/modern-wisdom-229239)
Published: 2026-07-27T05:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Dr Darby Saxbe is a clinical psychologist, professor at USC, and author. Do dads get postpartum depression? Mothers face enormous physical and emotional changes after childbirth, but fathers can struggle too, often in silence. So what happens to men when they become dads, why does it affect some so deeply, and how can they adapt to a new life that nature has thrust upon them? Expect to learn what actually happens to dads after moms give birth, the physiological changes that happen to dads after birth, which behaviors create the effect known as “dad brain”, the biggest upsides and downsides of fatherhood for men, why postpartum depression in fathers goes unrecognized, the worst advice dads get, and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠ Get 160+ lab tests for just $365 and save an extra $25 at ⁠https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at ⁠https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom⁠ Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at ⁠https://shopify.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at ⁠https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom⁠ Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (0:19) What is Dad Brain?(2:18) How Fatherhood Has Changed Over Time(8:18) What Happens to Men During Pregnancy?(12:57) Should Fathers Be in the Delivery Room?(13:47) Are Sympathetic Pregnancies Real?(15:17) What Couples Should Focus on During Pregnancy(17:56) The Real Cause of Dad Brain(24:18) The Top Behaviours That Trigger Dad Brain(31:31) Biology or Choice: What Makes a “Hands-On” Dad?(33:48) The Truth Behind the Deadbeat Dad Narrative(36…

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