# When Is It Okay Not to Forgive? (And When It’s Not)

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Podcast: [Master Your Marriage](https://stenobird.com/podcast/master-your-marriage-6011000)
Published: 2026-06-10T17:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://sharla-and-robert-snow.captivate.fm/episode/when-is-it-okay-not-to-forgive-and-when-its-not
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## Resource

In this powerful episode of Master Your Marriage , Sharla and Robert Snow explore one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships: forgiveness . They revisit the subject with fresh insights, addressing common misconceptions, the crucial difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and when it might actually be wise to move slowly on reconciliation — while still choosing internal peace. Through personal stories (including Sharla’s transformational experience with ho’oponopono), real client examples, and science-backed research, you’ll discover how forgiveness is something you do for yourself — not for the offender. Learn how to let go of resentment without losing your boundaries or compromising your safety. Whether you’re working through a small rupture or a deep wound, this episode offers clarity, hope, and practical tools to help you find freedom. Key Takeaways: Forgiveness is an internal process — it does not mean forgetting, excusing, or reconciling. You can forgive someone and still maintain strong boundaries (or even choose not to reconcile). Your peace does not have to wait for the other person to change — that’s living at cause . Unforgiveness carries real physical and mental health costs, but forgiveness offers powerful benefits. Resources Mentioned: Companion Episode: Ho’oponopono Forgiveness Meditation (available on Spotify & Apple Podcasts ) and available here! Research & Further Reading: Toussaint, L. L., et al. (2016). “Forgiveness, Stress, and Health: A 5-Week Dynamic Parallel Process Study.” Annals of Behavioral Medicine . PubMed Abstract | Full Text (PMC) Toussaint, L. L., et al. (2016). “Effects of Lifetime Stress Exposure on Mental and Physical Health in Young Adulthood: How Stress Degrades and Forgiveness Protects Health.” Journal…

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