# Why Men Who Want Love the Most Run From It the Hardest - Dismissive Avoidant Men

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Podcast: [ManTalks Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/mantalks-podcast-2748)
Published: 2026-05-14T14:00:00+00:00
Episode link: http://mantalks.com/podcast
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## Resource

I explore why dismissive avoidant men often crave love deeply while simultaneously pushing it away. I break down the mother wound and emotional conditioning that can lead men to associate intimacy, closeness, and vulnerability with danger instead of safety. I also talk about why healthy relationships can feel overwhelming for avoidant men, and what it actually takes to begin healing these patterns. If you’ve ever struggled with emotional closeness or loved someone who pulls away when things get real, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Dismissive Avoidant Men Run From Love 02:45 - The Emotionally Unavailable Mother 05:10 - How Boys Learn Their Needs Are “Too Much” 08:00 - The Core Belief: “I Can Only Rely On Myself” 11:20 - Why Avoidant Men Become Highly Successful 14:05 - Why Healthy Love Feels Threatening 18:15 - Running From Love As A Survival Strategy 22:10 - Learning To Feel Safe In Intimacy 26:05 - Expanding Your Capacity For Connection 29:10 - Healing Avoidant Attachment In Relationships *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance .  Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears o…

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