# 1842 || embrace your shadow + become the "villain" Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-your-damn-bed-1372987/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-your-damn-bed-1372987/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain.md Podcast: [Make Your Damn Bed](https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-your-damn-bed-1372987) Published: 2026-09-02T04:01:00+00:00 Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed/episodes/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain Audio file: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/e/6a972a709de3427035e106bf/media.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/make-your-damn-bed-1372987/episodes/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain Duration seconds: 635 ## Resource Do no harm but take no shit. Historically, especially under a patriarchal rule, women have been taught to be selfless, self sacrificing, useful, and kind over everything else.  The goal is to be seen and not heard. To be pleasant and palatable. While I think those are great virtues and attributes under a normal context, the patriarchy is not a normal context. Our society puts profits over people, so being taught to be self sacrificing is dangerous. Our society doesn’t have our best interest at heart. Am I telling you to not be kind, or generous? No. I am telling you to back off of the self sacrificing role that a lot of us were forced into. Compliance, obedience, and self sacrifice is dangerous, yet it’s what many of us women were taught as the “normal” expectation of us.  Remember that Matilda couldn't access her magic until she was pissed off. SOURCES: https://meridianuniversity.edu/content/shadow-work-meaning-in-jungian-psychology-explained https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassionate-feminism/202505/the-post-forties-villain-era https://livstclaire.substack.com/p/villain-era Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON . Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK . Info on War Tax Resistance. Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.  Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON .… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/make-your-damn-bed-1372987/episodes/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-your-damn-bed-1372987/1842-embrace-your-shadow-become-the-villain.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.