# 64: “Fish or Cut Bait? A Realistic Look at Starting Over

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Podcast: [Make More Love](https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840)
Published: 2025-08-21T13:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://makemorelove.show
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## Resource

Ellen Dorian addresses a listener's question about whether to end a long-term relationship, offering insights on recognizing emotional attachment, repairing relationships, and considering the hidden costs of divorce. Part 1: Analyzing Emotional Disengagement - Emotional clues indicating persistent attachment to a relationship - The significance of anger, bargaining, and seeking validation - Statistical insights on marital conflicts and desires for change Part 2: Strategies for Relationship Repair - Three-step approach to relationship improvement - Importance of committing to repair regardless of outcome - Shifting mindset and mapping out a strategy - Introduction to the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs Part 3: Considering Divorce and Its Hidden Costs - Financial, social, and emotional impacts of divorce - Real-life example of post-divorce challenges and successes - Importance of inner work before making major relationship decisions Key Takeaways: - Recognize emotional clues to determine readiness to end a relationship - Implement a three-step strategy to improve relationship dynamics - Understand and prepare for the hidden costs of divorce - Focus on solving the right relationship problems using the Hierarchy of Needs Call to Action: Take the free Relationship Dynamics quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz to identify the highest priority areas to improve in your relationship. Or, Schedule a Relationship Reset Call for a one on one walk through of your options at www.relationshipresetcall.com Closing Thoughts: Understanding when you are ready to end a relationship is never going to be easy. It's important to check in with yourself and follow the emotional clues that will show whether you are ready to move on. Whether you choose to stay or leave, focus on personal growth and he…

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