# 62: Dessert First-How to Make Your Relationship Fun Again

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Podcast: [Make More Love](https://stenobird.com/podcast/make-more-love-6719840)
Published: 2025-08-07T13:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://makemorelove.show
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Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of enjoying time with your partner and offers strategies to bring fun and playfulness back into relationships, especially for busy professionals. Part 1: Rediscovering Joy in Relationships - Ellen emphasizes the significance of simply enjoying being together - Introduces the concept of "affinity" from her relationship hierarchy of needs - Encourages listeners to reflect on their favorite activities with their partner - Addresses the challenge of relationships on autopilot due to busy lifestyles Part 2: Strategies for Rekindling Fun - Suggests recreating childhood summer memories as a date idea - Shares personal examples of fun childhood activities - Recommends asking partners about their favorite childhood memories - Introduces the concept of "bids for connection" and their importance Part 3: Overcoming Relationship Challenges - Addresses concerns for relationships in serious trouble - Introduces the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz - Explains how to use childhood favorites as "bids for connection" - Emphasizes the power of small, consistent gestures in building strong relationships Key Takeaways: - Prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in your relationship - Use childhood memories to create fun, playful experiences with your partner - Small, consistent gestures are more effective than grand, infrequent gestures - Taking initiative to improve your relationship can lead to positive changes Call to Action: Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at makemoreloveShowQuiz.com and schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen to review your results and create an action plan. Closing Thoughts: Relationships require active effort to maintain and improve. Incorporating playfulness and fun can reignite the enjoyment that brought you toget…

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