# The Shark Music We Carry | Childhood Trauma, Parenting & Emotional Healing

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Podcast: [Love, Laughs, and Lessons](https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-laughs-and-lessons-6726071)
Published: 2026-05-14T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loves-laughs--lessons/episodes/The-Shark-Music-We-Carry--Childhood-Trauma--Parenting--Emotional-Healing-e3jb9ur
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What happens when childhood trauma quietly shapes the way we love, parent, communicate, and move through the world as adults? In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons , psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with therapist, educator, and attachment specialist Dr. Sasha Reiisi to explore the lifelong impact of childhood trauma, emotional regulation, attachment wounds, and generational healing. Drawing from more than a decade of work with children, families, teens, and adults, Dr. Sasha explains how early experiences shape the nervous system long before we have language to understand what is happening to us. Together, they unpack why so many adults struggle with boundaries, anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional regulation, and self-worth without realizing how deeply childhood experiences still shape their relationships and parenting. The conversation explores parenting, co-regulation, rupture and repair, emotional safety, social media’s impact on children, and the delicate balance between protecting children and allowing them to become fully themselves. One of the most memorable moments of the episode comes when Dr. Sasha introduces the concept of “shark music,” the internal alarm system created by trauma that causes us to anticipate danger even when danger may not actually exist. We Cover: How childhood trauma shapes adult relationships and emotional patterns The role parents play in co-regulation and emotional safety Why people-pleasing and weak boundaries often start early in life The difference between traumatic events and trauma stored in the body Dr. Sasha’s concept of “shark music” and how it shapes adult behavior Why repair matters more than perfect parenting How social media and modern culture are impacting childr…

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