# 9. How to recognise your person: a dating framework for singles

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Podcast: [Love Inside Out with Adele Testa](https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-inside-out-with-adele-testa-7707936)
Published: 2026-02-15T08:30:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/adelethecoach/episodes/9--How-to-recognise-your-person-a-dating-framework-for-singles-e3eu05o
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## Resource

If you're single, chances are you've been hurt. You've lost trust — not just in love, but in yourself. You tolerated things you shouldn't have. You stayed too long. You ignored the signs.This episode is your reset. I share a framework she's developed through years of working with clients and my own dating experiences. No checklists. No "must-haves." Just a different way of thinking about how to find — and recognise — the right person for you. In this episode, you'll explore: → Why being single isn't a waiting room (and how to stop treating it like one) → The drowning metaphor: why we choose badly when we're desperate → The difference between making space for love and creating a void → Know yourself first: patterns, non-negotiables, and what you bring to relationships → Observe, don't project: why we fall in love with potential instead of reality → Time is your friend: what to look for beyond the butterflies → The "you just know" myth — and what recognition actually feels like → Quality over quantity: why time invested isn't a reason to stay → Red flags vs yellow flags vs personal preferences — and why not everything is a red flag→ The traps we all fall into: settling, rushing, scarcity, and potential Whether you're dating after divorce, navigating the apps, or wondering if love will ever find you — this episode offers tools to help you make a better call this time around. 🎧 Save this one. Come back to it. Share it with a friend who needs it. . . . .#dating #relationships #singlelife #datingadvice #findingtheoune #selftrust #datinginyour30s #datinginyour40s #datingafterdisvorce #redflags #relationshippatterns #datingframework #loveadvice #knowyourworth

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