# How to Have Difficult Conversations: Finding Confidence in Conflict | Kwame Christian | Happiness | E520 Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520 Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520.md Podcast: [Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby](https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318) Published: 2026-05-04T09:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520--71851324 Audio file: https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/71851324/yap4225763352.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/episodes/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520 Duration seconds: 5025 ## Resource Scientists gave people Tylenol before a social rejection. It worked. Your nervous system treats being left out the same way it treats a broken bone. That is why telling yourself to just get over it has never, ever worked. And it is why this conversation with negotiation expert Kwame Christian is going to change how you see your own fear of conflict. If you’re non confrontational by nature, or you’ve spent years being a people pleaser to keep things smooth, what Kwame explains in this episode is going to feel like the first time someone has accurately described what is actually happening inside you. The fear is not weakness. It is biology. And there is a way through it. In this episode, I sit down with Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute and host of Negotiate Anything. His framework, Compassionate Curiosity, is built entirely on empathy, genuine curiosity, and a clear sense of what you actually value. We did a live roleplay about household labor and invisible work, and I want to be honest with you: I felt the shift in real time. The resistance just left. That is what this approach does. In This Episode The neuroscience behind conflict avoidance, including why social rejection activates the same neural pathways as physical pain Kwame’s origin story as a people pleaser and exactly how he treated his fear of conflict like a phobia to overcome it The difference between being liked and being respected, and why only one of them gets you where you want to go A complete reframe of what negotiation actually is, and why the goal is never to win but to discover what is possible The Compassionate Curiosity framework step by step, including the pre-conversation internal work that makes you harder to rattle The Situation/Impact/Invitation opener that dissolves… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/episodes/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-finding-confidence-in-conflict-kwame-christian-happiness-e520.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.