# Are You Making Major Relationship Mistakes Without Realizing It? | LHS Classic Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic.md Podcast: [Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby](https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318) Published: 2026-04-20T09:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic--71486190 Audio file: https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/71486190/yap2036382396.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/episodes/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic Duration seconds: 3272 ## Resource Most relationship mistakes do not begin with one dramatic betrayal or blowout fight. More often, they begin with unhealthy relationship habits like defensiveness, blame, criticism, neglect, and communication problems in relationships that slowly create emotional disconnection over time. If your relationship has been feeling harder than it used to, this episode will help you understand why. In this Love, Happiness and Success classic, I’m revisiting one of my favorite conversations about the subtle patterns that can quietly damage even a good relationship. As a marriage counselor, I’ve seen how easy it is to focus on what your partner is doing wrong while missing the ways you may also be contributing to resentment, distance, and disconnection. We’re talking about some of the most common relationship mistakes, including making the relationship too much about yourself, blaming your issues instead of taking responsibility for them, neglecting your partner, criticizing instead of communicating clearly, bottling up feelings, and expecting problems to get better without direct effort. We also get into why blame, defensiveness, and mind-reading are so destructive, and what helps instead: empathy, accountability, honest communication, and the willingness to address problems while they are still small. This episode is a reminder that strong relationships are built with intention. When you can recognize the unhealthy relationship habits that are getting in the way, it becomes much easier to create more trust, more warmth, and more connection. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Relationship Mistakes That Cause Real Damage 04:25 Unhealthy Relationship Habits That Push Partners Apart 10:03 Communication Problems in Relationships: Blame, Defensiveness, and Criticism 20:26 Emotional Disconn… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/episodes/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/love-happiness-and-success-with-dr-lisa-marie-bobby-7046318/are-you-making-major-relationship-mistakes-without-realizing-it-lhs-classic.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.