# 134: I Was a People Pleaser for Years. Here's What Finally Made Me Stop.

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Podcast: [Lizzie Ens Show](https://stenobird.com/podcast/lizzie-ens-show-7085348)
Published: 2026-03-31T08:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://lizzie-ens-show.captivate.fm
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Duration seconds: 1317

## Resource

Have you spent years keeping the peace, saying yes when you meant no, and putting everyone else first… only to feel invisible, exhausted, and completely disconnected from who you actually are? In this episode, Lizzie gets honest about her own journey out of people pleasing. She breaks down why so many people – especially women – struggle to speak up, why speaking up feels so threatening when you weren't taught how, and what it actually takes to use your voice in a way that earns you respect instead of just approval. Because here is the truth: staying silent to keep the peace is quietly costing you more than you know. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why people pleasers are liked but not respected and how to change that Why speaking up feels so hard when your voice was suppressed growing up How to stop people pleasing without exploding in anger or resentment Why "no" is a complete sentence and you don't owe anyone an explanation How suppressing your voice shows up physically (thyroid, hormones, nervous system, and sleep) How to identify your values before you set a single boundary The onion method for reconnecting with who you actually are How to recognize when you are allowing people to take advantage of you Why your gut is always right and what happens when you ignore it How to start using your voice with yourself first We talk about: 00:00 Why speaking up feels so hard 01:30 Growing up Amish: when your voice gets silenced early 04:45 The difference between being liked and being respected 06:00 Dying on the inside while holding everyone else together 08:00 How to speak up effectively (anger never works) 11:30 The onion around your heart 16:00 Are they taking advantage of you, or are you letting them? Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzieens_wellnes…

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