# EP 645: How to Stop Sabotaging a Healthy Relationship (Even When You're Still Healing) Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018/ep-645-how-to-stop-sabotaging-a-healthy-relationship-even-when-you-re-still-healing Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018/ep-645-how-to-stop-sabotaging-a-healthy-relationship-even-when-you-re-still-healing.md Podcast: [Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice](https://stenobird.com/podcast/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018) Published: 2026-04-22T11:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.drmorgancoaching.com Audio file: https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/9e86ff6a-3170-4fec-8bca-29aeff75d87c.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018/episodes/ep-645-how-to-stop-sabotaging-a-healthy-relationship-even-when-you-re-still-healing Duration seconds: 1701 ## Resource If you've ever found yourself pulling away from someone genuinely good, someone emotionally available, consistent, and kind β€” and thought, why am I like this? , this episode is for you. We're getting into one of the most vulnerable truths in the healing journey: you can finally find the right person and still be the one who blows it up. I'm breaking down why our nervous systems are wired to reject what feels unfamiliar (even when it's healthy), the signs you might be in a sabotage cycle right now, and the practical steps to actually stop it β€” before you push away something really good. πŸ” Inside the Episode: Your nervous system doesn't know the difference between "unfamiliar" and "dangerous." There are real, recognizable signs you're about to sabotage a good thing. Stopping the cycle requires doing the deeper work β€” not just white-knuckling it. Ready to do the deeper work? If you're tired of watching yourself push away the very thing you actually want, I'd love to support you inside the Empowered. Secure. Love. Private 1:1 Coaching Intensive. Right now, we only have a few spots left for t he Secure Relationship Reset Spring Sale β€” and this is genuinely the best time to do this work.. Apply in two minutes at www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough 🎧 Also, if you're not in the Secure. Soft. Magnetic. Audio Course yet , it's one of my favorite resources I've ever created and it's waiting for you right here: Listen now πŸ”— Additional Episode Links: Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz β†’ https://drmorgancoaching.com/quiz Follow me on IG β†’ @drmorgancoaching Grab my book: Grab my best selling book Love Magnet ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018/episodes/ep-645-how-to-stop-sabotaging-a-healthy-relationship-even-when-you-re-still-healing/transcription-requests` β€” Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/let-s-get-vulnerable-relationship-and-dating-advice-479018/ep-645-how-to-stop-sabotaging-a-healthy-relationship-even-when-you-re-still-healing.md` β€” Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.