# How Much Of Yourself Have You Abandoned For Love? | For Mannerless Women

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Podcast: [Legally Clueless](https://stenobird.com/podcast/legally-clueless-82178)
Published: 2026-08-27T07:18:45+00:00
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What happens when loving someone slowly becomes abandoning yourself? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with businesswoman, creative and MC Dushy Kuria for an honest conversation about divorce, relationships, therapy, self-worth and finding your way back to yourself.For the first time, Dushy speaks publicly about her divorce, from what led her into marriage at 26, to the moment she realised that if someone was going to choose her, it had to be her. They unpack the ways women can be conditioned to confuse love with endless sacrifice, why chaos can feel familiar when you haven't experienced calm love, and how low self-esteem can shape the relationships we choose, even when we appear confident on the outside. Dushy also shares the messier side of healing after divorce: partying, dating, missing her marriage, trying again, going to therapy and learning that knowing better doesn't immediately mean doing better. And eventually, finding her way home to herself. In this conversation: Why women can confuse love with self-abandonment Dushy's journey through marriage and divorce Searching for safety through romantic relationships The pressure of being a firstborn daughter Confidence vs. self-esteem Why chaos can feel like love What therapy taught Dushy about why she stayed The messy, nonlinear reality of healing Rebuilding self-trust after a relationship Learning to leave relationships sooner Finding safety within yourself Rediscovering the parts of yourself you lost in love Letting go of the need to be chosen What healthy love and marriage mean to Dushy now Dushy also shares Maya Angelou's Still I Rise as her Mannerless Message, a powerful reminder of our capacity to rise, rebuild and reclaim ourselves. CONNECT WITH DUSHY: https://www.instagram.com…

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