# You’re Not Being Rejected. You’re Rejecting Yourself (Ep. 64)

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Podcast: [Just Ask Her - Dating Advice for Single Men](https://stenobird.com/podcast/just-ask-her-dating-advice-for-single-men-7118757)
Published: 2026-02-18T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/gracie-pleschourt5/episodes/Youre-Not-Being-Rejected--Youre-Rejecting-Yourself-Ep--64-e3f7uuj
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## Resource

If you keep getting friend-zoned, ghosted, or rejected , your dating mindset may be the real problem—not your looks, age, or personality. In this episode of Just Ask Her , host Gracie and co-host/certified life coach Tracy break down three real submissions to help you date with more confidence, clarity, and emotional control. You’ll learn how to approach first dates without future-tripping, how people-pleasing can quietly kill attraction, and how to think about boundaries without trying to control someone else. This is especially for men who feel like dating is exhausting, discouraging, or “easy for everyone else.” Book Recommendation: Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Podcast link: https://forms.gle/hn7qN1Rj1P8RCvR6A Time Stamp / Chapters: 00:00 Intro: How you talk about your dating life matters 00:33 Welcome to Just Ask Her + meet Tracy 00:54 Noodle’s vaccine reaction + emergency vet story 03:53 Tracy joins the Lions Club + why volunteering expands your circle 08:33 Community impact example: discreet weekend food backpacks 15:13 Quick call to action: rate/review + share the podcast 16:04 Submission #1: Great Hinge coffee date… then “no connection” 17:16 Why you should cap first dates + avoid “false reality” 20:05 Drop expectations: stop future-tripping after Date 1 25:17 Submission #2: “Lovely guy” but friend-zoned/ghosted at 40 29:19 Mindset spiral + self-rejection + labeling 31:06 People-pleasing causes friend-zone + become the chooser 37:00 “Cool beans” and the ick: how you show up matters 38:30 Self-Made Man Dating Journal promo 40:05 Submission #3: Coffee shop number, LinkedIn… then boyfriend on IG 42:18 Friendly vs flirty + why LinkedIn changes the read 44:28 Add clarity: “over drinks/dinner” or ask if she’s single 50:28 B…

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