# DISCUSSION: When Fixing Replaces Feeling

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Published: 2026-06-17T14:28:17+00:00
Episode link: https://jwdikkers.substack.com/p/when-fixing-replaces-feeling
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## Resource

We explore the profound psychological impact of the presence gap , a phenomenon where children are safely protected and loved but lack emotional attunement from their caregivers. We argue that when parents prioritize fixing over feeling , they inadvertently bypass the child’s need for emotional resonance , causing unexpressed pain to be stored as shame and self-silencing in adulthood. The source functions as a guide for healing, emphasizing that validation must precede solutions because it serves as a biological mechanism for nervous system regulation. Ultimately, we encourages adults to move toward wholeness by acknowledging that presence is more vital than protection , allowing them to finally process the feelings that were once ignored. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jwdikkers.substack.com

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