# You're NOT Setting Boundaries — You're Trying to CONTROL Them

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Podcast: [Inside The Mind Of An Addict](https://stenobird.com/podcast/inside-the-mind-of-an-addict-6321418)
Published: 2026-04-19T00:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/podcasts/inside-the-mind-of-an-addict/episodes/2149194853
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## Resource

  If you’ve been setting “boundaries” that never seem to work, this episode will help you understand why. So many people supporting a loved one through addiction are told to set boundaries—but what most of us are actually doing isn’t a boundary at all. It’s control. And that difference is exactly what keeps people stuck. In this conversation, we break down how to recognize your true intent, what healthy boundaries actually look like, and the subtle ways control can show up disguised as something helpful. It’s one of the most misunderstood parts of family recovery—and getting it wrong can leave you feeling frustrated, exhausted, and no closer to real change. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels and ready for a different approach, this is a great place to start. Take the free Boundaries Quiz: 👉 https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/self-assessments Looking for deeper support? 👉 https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/hff-membership

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