# 36. What is your Shadow Self? Own your Shadow, Own Your Life with Human Behaviour Expert & Coach, Anita Tomecki

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Published: 2026-04-09T07:45:01+00:00
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## Resource

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Human Behaviour Expert & Coach Anita Tomecki to unpack one of the most misunderstood — and transformational — concepts in personal growth: the shadow self . We go beyond the surface and break down what shadow work actually is (without the fluff), how it shows up in everyday life, and why the parts of you you’ve been trying to hide… might be the very parts running your life. If you’ve ever found yourself people-pleasing, overreacting, shutting down, judging others, or feeling stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you — this episode will hit. Because the truth is… ✨ You don’t need fixing — you need integration. 🔥 In this episode, we cover: What the shadow self really is (in simple, relatable terms) How your shadow shows up: triggers, control, perfectionism & emotional reactions Why avoiding your shadow keeps you stuck (and stressed) The link between shadow work & your nervous system Practical ways to start doing shadow work without spiralling How owning your shadow leads to real confidence, self-trust & freedom 🌿 Follow Anita here: 📸 https://www.instagram.com/anitatomecki/ 🌐 Connect with me 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/katiedelimon 📘 Get my book Trust the Flames : https://www.katiedelimon.com/trust-the-flames ✨ Inner Self Confidence Program: https://www.katiedelimon.com/inner-self-confidence 📞 Let’s jump on a free strategy call: https://calendly.com/katie-katiedelimon/30min

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