# How To Get Out Of Your Head During Sex

Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex
Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex.md
Podcast: [How To Have Sex](https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627)
Published: 2026-07-28T07:00:19+00:00
Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex
Audio file: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/e/6a680aa1a02cbcf2a1da1051/media.mp3
Processing state: not_requested
JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex
Duration seconds: 2875

## Resource

Ever been fully naked, fully touched, and but still mentally reviewing the grocery list? Welcome to the club. This week Jay-Jay and Mel unpack why so many of us check out during sex, even when everything happening is objectively hot. They dig into the classic thinking-brain-versus-feeling-body problem, why meditation was never really about clearing your mind, the wild timing gap between when men and women tend to orgasm, and how old trauma responses like fawning can silently hijack your sex life without you noticing. Then Mel walks through her five go-to somatic tools, breath, awareness, movement, touch and sound, and demonstrates them live on the mic. Results: mixed, honest, very funny. Plus: redefining the quickie (it does not have to mean five minutes flat), the truth about lube, and why your partner genuinely cannot read your mind, so stop expecting them to. Homework included. Bring tissues, or don't, no judgment. Got a confession or a question for the show? Send it in, we might read it out (anonymously, always). How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes; one nosy, curious host and one expert who actually knows what she's talking about. Every episode tackles the stuff most of us were never taught, minus the awkward classroom diagrams. This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets . Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HTHS for 20% off sitewide… Pleasure Delivered. JOIN OUR COMMUNITY! SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@howtohaves.pod FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavese…

## Actions

- request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/how-to-have-sex-7724627/episodes/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode.
- read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-to-have-sex-7724627/how-to-get-out-of-your-head-during-sex.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource.

A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed.

## Transcript

Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.