# Divorce: When Being Too Nice Can Cost You Everything

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Podcast: [How Not To Suck At Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/how-not-to-suck-at-divorce-4488361)
Published: 2026-07-31T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://hownottosuckatdivorce.com/
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## Resource

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